2017-09-13 at 5:15 AM #597572+2
I agree 100% with what you said and that is exactly how I conduct myself with my sons, as difficult as their mother makes it sometimes.
My father was a great example and never said a disparaging word about mom during or after their divorce. I’m grateful for that and use his actions as a guidepost to my conduct.2017-09-13 at 6:35 AM #597609+2
Before my son could drive I would drive 1 1/2 hours to go pick him up, hang out with him for a few hours and then drive 1 1/2 hours home. I didn’t see it as a hardship, he’s my kid and I was just being his dad. It didn’t last forever, now we meet halfway at a pool hall. He calls me or I call him almost every day. Just making the best out what we’re given. Time is the most valuable thing you can give someone.
So often times it happens that we live our lives in chains and we never even know we have the key. Eagles2017-09-14 at 6:42 AM #598622+2
I’m in the same boat with you, brother. There is no reason when dealing with these women. It has been shown over time that I am the only reason there is an uneasy peace between the two of us. I do this because of our child. But I have made it very clear to her that THE DAY our child turns 18, she will never see or hear from me again.
Our divorce is like the Cold War. We both have weapons, but mine are bigger and better (legally speaking). Without saying it, she and I both know this, and neither of us want it to go to all out war because it will hurt both of us. But she knows if she pushes it to all out war, she will lose the most in a court of law.
But I completely understand what you’re dealing with. It can make a man start to question his own sanity….
It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house. Proverbs 21:92017-09-14 at 8:41 AM #598699+5
MGTOW@50, same s~~~ here, my ex does not give a f~~~ about doing the right thing she only has her best intrests in mind. I’m just seeing that now and as much as you or I want to make it work the best we can, they will always resort to what is best for her. I guess we just have to know that and expect it and try to do what is best for us and our children. Remember it won’t be long before your kids are grown up and it won’t be long before her world goes to s~~~.2017-09-14 at 8:53 AM #598707+1
MGTOW@50, same s~~~ here, my ex does not give a f~~~ about doing the right thing she only has her best intrests in mind. I’m just seeing that now and as much as you or I want to make it work the best we can, they will always resort to what is best for her. I guess we just have to know that and expect it and try to do what is best for us and our children. Remember it won’t be long before your kids are grown up and it won’t be long before her world goes to s~~~.
That is so true, Oldschool. We just keep taking it on the chin for our kids, but I am counting the days till my kid is 18.
It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house. Proverbs 21:92017-09-14 at 9:00 AM #598714+3
I am counting the days till my kid is 18.
Same here, its sad in a way to think that way but I can’t wait for the day I do not have to text the ex almost everyday to work out how I’m going to see my child.2017-09-14 at 9:13 AM #598725+2
Probably the most difficult of the decisions I made after my divorce was to leave Australia. I did it only to forgo the weaponisation of my only daughter against me. From the time that she was two years old until twenty years old I saw her only five times for no more than one whole day. When my father passed away in 2009 I was able to speak to her and as an adult she understood the gross injustice that her mother had done to all our nuclear family. Hang in there it’s tough but your kids will see when they are able to understand for themselves what is really going on.2017-09-15 at 4:50 AM #599710+2
This is a typical fight spurred by a conniving c~~~. I’m early into my separation and stupid fights like this will be plaguing me for probably the next 6-8 years.
It will not end once the agreement is signed b/c there will be issues like this that the skanks will create for the simple reason of being a pain in the ass.
Best of luck dealing with this bulls~~~ and be firm and don’t take any s~~~.
I’m with ya, just a few steps behind you in the process – I’m just now getting glimpses of the childish bulls~~~ that you are experiencing. Using cars, kids and even dogs as weapons of torment.2017-09-15 at 10:24 AM #599999+3
Had to meet my son briefly to drop off some school items and before leaving he says,
“I don’t know if mom mentioned it to you but I’m allowed to drive to your house now.”
I asked what prompted that. He didn’t know.
I know. I made it clear to her that I was not going to participate in her BS. She ranted and raved. I gave no f~~~s and didn’t respond.
Then she caved.2017-11-13 at 1:36 AM #661683+2
I disagree about shielding children from bad women’s tactics and actions. This is why so many men believe in unicorns. Why women grow up to think their psychotic mother’s games were acceptable. You set the son up to repeat your mistakes if you don’t educate him. You teach the daughter that bad tactics and destructive games are OK for her to use on her husband. Just calmly explain what the wife is doing and why you think she might be doing these things. Someday your kids will probably thank you.
Beer & BBQ2017-11-14 at 10:15 PM #663713+1
At a certain point, you should try to minimize the amount of contact and communication with her to as little as possible. Never show your hand or what you’re planning unless it’s absolutely necessary.2017-11-15 at 9:07 PM #664940
I feel for you brother. Possibly the suckiest part of a divorce is afterwards having to interact/negotiate with the bitch for years to see your kids.
(Side note, if — as a man- you think your kids are ‘yours,’ you are in for a rude surprise in divorce court)."You don't know a woman till you have met her in court." --Norman Mailer
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